Have you faced the loss of a parent, struggled with how to say good-bye? Have you felt the depth of pain of the loss, not knowing where to turn or how to cope? Have you questioned your faith and let fear take over in times of loss? Are you comfortable in your skin or still try to fit in?
Rebecca Whitehead Munn, a mother of two children under the age of five, is going through a divorce when she discovers that her mother, 3,000 miles away, has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. In The Gift of Good-bye, she shares how this experience led to a heart-opening expansion, and encourages readers to believe that they, too, can form new beliefs and new connections and elevate their difficult experiences to a higher level of authenticity. The story is her account of living through two major life transitions within a three-year span, and the resulting shift she made in the process—due to the lasting gift of love from her now-deceased mother, her courage, and the choice she made to expand into more of who she was at her core as everything about life as she knew it changed.
“In The Gift of Goodbye Rebecca Munn offers a heartfelt chronicle of grief and transformation from living in fear to trusting her faith in something greater than herself. Like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, she shows us a path to freedom and the true self.”
— Linda Carleton, author of Elmina’s Fire
“A love letter and testament to an extraordinary mother, a shared journey through the garden of loss, and the metamorphosis that blossoms through courage and big, open-hearted love as grief subsides into wisdom and grace. Munn has penned an intimate gem of a book that shows how a willing sharing of a darkening path eventually leads to light. Beautiful!”
— Irene Allison, co-author, Stay, Breathe with Me: The Gift of Compassionate Medicine
“Coping with grief is something we all struggle with, and the reader will surely see something of themselves in her writing…This is her story of finding herself and sharing her most intimate conversations as she and her mother help each other learn how to say good bye. Readers will certainly be moved by her story and will take away ideas about how to cope with their own grief.”
—Iris Waichler, award-winning author of Role Reversal: How to Take Care of Yourself and Your Aging Parents
Quotes from The Gift of Goodbye
Because of my fierce determination in gripping tightly to the person I thought I was, and because of my stubbornness about not letting go of my ego and trusting my faith, my path to healing was long and circuitous.
In the midst of my pain about my divorce and my mother’s death, I struggled to understand what love really was and started to question my beliefs.
My mother was a quiet leader in her own right. Her goal in raising my sisters and me seemed to be to empower us to believe that we could accomplish anything we desired.
Now that I have given myself permission to take off my masks and live each day as my true self, I have chosen to dig deep into my heart and acknowledge my greatest passions and desires.
Because I was a strong-willed girl and a black-and-white thinker, every time I had an experience that revealed something different than what I expected, fear grew in my soul.
In turn, I began to discover that life has a whole lot of gray that fills in the spaces left between black and white.